Friday, June 27, 2014
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sunderblogger: sunderblogger.blogspot.154: Change Attitude, Not Lifestyle In life, everyone is denied a few things. But all of us have been blessed with millions of gifts. If you fo...
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Change Attitude, Not Lifestyle
In life, everyone is denied a few things. But all of us have been blessed with millions of gifts. If you focus on what you do not have, you will be unhappy, if you choose to focus on the things you have, you are grateful and you develop an irresistible share, contribute, and give. This makes you happy. The most precious things come for free, which you do not even consider! Hence, you live life feeling deprived and deficient when, in fact, you could be totally fulfilled and abundant.
Do you have conflict with the people you love most? Do you blame the 1other person for it? May be it has to do with your attitude. Do you have expectations of you family members? Do you make demands on your spouse and children? This is not love. It is attachment. Love tainted with selfishness is attachment. You only love yourself. You claim to love because they happen to cater to you in some way. This causes conflict and untold suffering. In the end you support them. Attachment is the single most important cause for breakdown in relationships.
So change you attitude, not lifestyle. Your life will change from drudgery to revelry. From mediocrity to Excellence.
Best Wishes!
Sunder T
In life, everyone is denied a few things. But all of us have been blessed with millions of gifts. If you focus on what you do not have, you will be unhappy, if you choose to focus on the things you have, you are grateful and you develop an irresistible share, contribute, and give. This makes you happy. The most precious things come for free, which you do not even consider! Hence, you live life feeling deprived and deficient when, in fact, you could be totally fulfilled and abundant.
Do you have conflict with the people you love most? Do you blame the 1other person for it? May be it has to do with your attitude. Do you have expectations of you family members? Do you make demands on your spouse and children? This is not love. It is attachment. Love tainted with selfishness is attachment. You only love yourself. You claim to love because they happen to cater to you in some way. This causes conflict and untold suffering. In the end you support them. Attachment is the single most important cause for breakdown in relationships.
So change you attitude, not lifestyle. Your life will change from drudgery to revelry. From mediocrity to Excellence.
Best Wishes!
Sunder T
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sunderblogger: sunderblogger.blogspot.153: Indians, by and large, have an aversion to anything dark. Whether it`s sugar, flour or skin complexion, dark is out and white is in, the wh...
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Indians, by and large, have an aversion to anything dark. Whether it`s sugar, flour or skin complexion, dark is out and white is in, the whiter the better. The exception to this color is coded scheme of things is money. Indians or, at least some Indians have a distinct preference for so-called “black” money over” white” money.
Best Wishes
Sunder T
Best Wishes
Sunder T
Thursday, June 26, 2014
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I have a very simple definition of integrity:
I saw a romantic greeting card which showed a couple kissing in the front seat of a car. The message said, ‘If you can kiss while driving safely, you are not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.’ Anything that is worth doing is worth doing with a whole heart, mind and body.
I saw a romantic greeting card which showed a couple kissing in the front seat of a car. The message said, ‘If you can kiss while driving safely, you are not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.’ Anything that is worth doing is worth doing with a whole heart, mind and body.
We get into the trouble not because we do things that are
wrong, but because we approach our activities with divided intentions. Our body
is doing one thing while our heart is elsewhere. We go to jobs wet rather not
be at, we sleep with people we don’t love, we go to parties we secretly find
boring or repulsive. At the same time we love people we don’t express our love
for, we deny ourselves food we would really enjoy, and we know truths we do not
act on.
You are doing on the outside matches who you are on the inside. I respect people who do things I don’t agree with, or wouldn’t do myself, but I respect them for being 100 percent who they are.
You are doing on the outside matches who you are on the inside. I respect people who do things I don’t agree with, or wouldn’t do myself, but I respect them for being 100 percent who they are.
They are in integrity.
Regards,
Sunder T
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it is well said, “Politics is to be left only to politicians”.
India has been like a house owned by a householder who leaves the day-to-day running of the house –keeping the place clean, buy provisions for the kitchen, maintaining a daily account – to the servants. Left unregulated-except for a check on their activities every five years-the servants inevitably come to feel that the house belongs to them and not to the householder. As times goes by they become increasingly lazy and corrupt with no money to pay for the upkeep.
The householder blames the servants for having cheated and defrauded her. She concludes that all servants are cheats who are not to be trusted. But the householder forgets that it was only because she abdicated her own responsibility for adequately supervising the servants that they could behave the way they did, bringing the house to the sorry state it is in.
The Indian public is like that over-trustful householder who has let her house be run, with virtually no monitoring, by politicians who, feeling that there is no one to hold them to account for their actions, have done exactly as they pleased, holding to ransom the house that call India.
Best Wishes!
Sunder T
India has been like a house owned by a householder who leaves the day-to-day running of the house –keeping the place clean, buy provisions for the kitchen, maintaining a daily account – to the servants. Left unregulated-except for a check on their activities every five years-the servants inevitably come to feel that the house belongs to them and not to the householder. As times goes by they become increasingly lazy and corrupt with no money to pay for the upkeep.
The householder blames the servants for having cheated and defrauded her. She concludes that all servants are cheats who are not to be trusted. But the householder forgets that it was only because she abdicated her own responsibility for adequately supervising the servants that they could behave the way they did, bringing the house to the sorry state it is in.
The Indian public is like that over-trustful householder who has let her house be run, with virtually no monitoring, by politicians who, feeling that there is no one to hold them to account for their actions, have done exactly as they pleased, holding to ransom the house that call India.
Best Wishes!
Sunder T
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A major culprit for crime and corruption is addiction to drugs and alcohol. Addiction starts with the repeated experience of the same sense object and this creates a sense of craving for it. Leaving the habit becomes painful, but having it does not give you any bliss, or ecstasy. Nobody is born with a craving, but you have started a habit within you that has created the craving. An intelligent person spends his time in knowledge, music, literature, science and in bringing people together. But the foolish always enjoy spending their time indulging in addictions, altercations and fights. All these recreational drugs just destroy your body. It will temporarily give you a high that takes you off from the mundane to a seemingly subtle feeling. To overcome addiction you have choice of Love, fear, and greed. This is an extract from a discourse by Shri Ravi Shankar in Art of living for of “sundercircle” Sunder T
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I am staying alone without any servant/help for the last 14 years. I find life is very challenging and exciting (especially after expiry of wife in the year 2000 and having no children). In India, being a middle class person and having no servant is not acceptable within the society. But those who have lived abroad (me, staying in London for two years) acquired a different mindset on these matters. I like the way British people live their life. Labour is dignified (even cleaning one`s own toilet or washing one`s own car) or keeping away from other people private life (minding one`s own business). After I learned these two things, my attitude towards life had changed a lot. I wish every person can live like this (without being dependent on anybody, for even cooking his own meals, which is looked down upon when a man is cooking his own meal). I shall obliged if anyone can contribute his views, suggestion or comment on this important matter "Living Alone" and send it across to this blog. Your attention and time will be highly appreciated and acknowledged. Kind Regards! Sunder T from Mumbai, India.
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Is there such a creature as an Indian? There may be, but I have not found it. An Indian pure and simple is rare as a griffin or an Assyrian bull.
How should it be otherwise? The Indian is not a person, but a patchwork. Indeed, he reminds me of Ibsen`s famous one layer, then another, then another, and finally, nothing.
I am the peeling of the various layers that causes much trouble. Each layer tells its own tale and, what is unbelievable, is not part of an organic whole. The result is that the so-called Indian is the most contradictory of persons. He is perpetually at war with himself.
Not knowing himself, he is unable to understand others. Our metaphysics, wonderful as they are, have tried to solve this confusion, but in vain. Our multilayered soul remains hidden and unfathomable.
But why are we what we are?
Aryanism, of which we have become particularly proud since independence, is, if we examine matters without partipris, integumentary. The essence lies elsewhere.
The Indian spirit is basically pre-Aryan. The Dravidian element in it is predominant, (as we see t0-day,) but the total influences go further back. We have heard the phrase “Mother India”; India is much more than that; she is the Granny of Nations. Her soul (there is, I repeat, no “it” about it) is steeped in the leadings and misleading of many civilizations.
best wishes,
Sunder Thadani.
How should it be otherwise? The Indian is not a person, but a patchwork. Indeed, he reminds me of Ibsen`s famous one layer, then another, then another, and finally, nothing.
I am the peeling of the various layers that causes much trouble. Each layer tells its own tale and, what is unbelievable, is not part of an organic whole. The result is that the so-called Indian is the most contradictory of persons. He is perpetually at war with himself.
Not knowing himself, he is unable to understand others. Our metaphysics, wonderful as they are, have tried to solve this confusion, but in vain. Our multilayered soul remains hidden and unfathomable.
But why are we what we are?
Aryanism, of which we have become particularly proud since independence, is, if we examine matters without partipris, integumentary. The essence lies elsewhere.
The Indian spirit is basically pre-Aryan. The Dravidian element in it is predominant, (as we see t0-day,) but the total influences go further back. We have heard the phrase “Mother India”; India is much more than that; she is the Granny of Nations. Her soul (there is, I repeat, no “it” about it) is steeped in the leadings and misleading of many civilizations.
best wishes,
Sunder Thadani.
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Anna Hazare, the man
who bought Gandhigiri back in vogue, had stirred up quite a revolution. From the aam admi to students, the Bollywood
starts to the media- everybody is agreeing that they might not agree with
everything Hazare might have to say, but boy will they defend his right to say
it! 74 year-old has carried out a rather tech-savvy campaign predominantly
through social networking websites and sms. But shortly before his highly
controversial arrest, the man-of the-hour posted a pre-recorded message on
YouTube, where he said “The second freedom struggle has started…This is a fight
for change. The protests should not stop. The time has come for no jail in the
country to have a free space”
But where is now? He has become a history. Indian politics is rarely understood by the world.
Best Wishes for Anna Hazare
Sunder T
But where is now? He has become a history. Indian politics is rarely understood by the world.
Best Wishes for Anna Hazare
Sunder T
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Anna Hazare, the man who bought Gandhigiri back in vogue, had stirred up quite a revolution. From the aam admi to students, the Bollywood starts to the media- everybody is agreeing that they might not agree with everything Hazare might have to say, but boy will they defend his right to say it! 74 year-old has carried out a rather tech-savvy campaign predominantly through social networking websites and sms. But shortly before his highly controversial arrest, the man-of the-hour posted a pre-recorded message on YouTube, where he said “The second freedom struggle has started…This is a fight for change. The protests should not stop. The time has come for no jail in the country to have a free space”
But where is now? He has become a history. Indian politics is rarely understood by the world.
Best Wishes for Anna Hazare
Sunder T
But where is now? He has become a history. Indian politics is rarely understood by the world.
Best Wishes for Anna Hazare
Sunder T
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sunderblogger: sunderblogger.blogspot.148: 10 Quick Strategies to Help Manage Your Anger When someone cuts you off on the freeway, do you give in to your rage? Do you burst out in a...
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10 Quick Strategies to Help Manage Your Anger
When someone cuts you off on the freeway, do you give in to your rage? Do you burst out in anger when your child misbehaves?
Anger is a very natural emotion. However, learning to deal with your anger in a positive manner is important, both for your well-being and that of others who are near and dear to you. When you cannot control your temper, you and everyone around you suffer the consequences.
If you struggle with anger management, the good news is: it doesn't have to be this way! You don't have to fall victim to an uncontrollable temper. There are anger management techniques that will help you change the way you express this emotion.
These strategies can help you manage your anger in positive ways:
1. Give yourself a time out. Counting to ten before you speak or act gives you a chance to think first. Take a deep breath or two while you count to ten; this action helps relax your tense muscles and sends a burst of oxygen to your brain for clarity of thought.
Removing yourself altogether from the situation gives you more time to calm down and further reduces the risk of an angry outburst. You can return once you're able to discuss the issue peacefully.
2. Take some personal space. When the very presence of a specific person makes your blood boil, stay away from them until your frustration dies down. Use the opportunity away from them to work through your feelings and seek a positive solution to your challenge with them.
3. After you're calm, express yourself. It's healthy to express your feelings, even feelings of anger, as long as you do it in a peaceful, positive, and non-confrontational way.
Discussing your feelings with the person who upsets you often helps both of you understand each other better so you can work out your issues.
Stewing about what is bothering you can make the whole situation worse.
4. Exercise. Strenuous physical activity is an incredible way to release your anger, especially if you feel you're at the breaking point. Exercising also releases endorphins, the "feel good" hormones, which will help you feel more at peace. A۬
Lifting weights, running, and playing sports are great ways to blow off some steam.
5. Think it through before you tackle the issue. When you're angry, you're more likely to say something hurtful that you don't really mean.
Write down what you want to say so you can work through the issue at hand; when your temper is flaring, it's easy to get sidetracked.
6. Find a win-win solution. Instead of focusing on what someone did to make you angry, work with him or her to resolve the issue. Finding a solution that you both agree on will allow you to feel satisfied.
7. Use personal statements when discussing the issue. Avoid criticizing or placing blame.
Use statements like, "It makes me feel angry and upset when you don't help me with the housework," instead of "You never help me," which could make that person angry or resentful in return.
8. Avoid holding a grudge. Maintaining resentment toward someone only hurts you. Let it go, put it in the past, and move forward with your life.
It's unreasonable to expect everyone to act the way you want them to. Rather than letting someone continue to irritate you with their mannerisms, find a way to accept or look past them.
9. Use humor. Lighten up the situation by saying or doing something genuinely funny. Once you both have a good laugh, it's easier to find a resolution together.
When being humorous, avoid sarcasm as it can hurt and make things worse.
10. Practice relaxation techniques. Skills like deep breathing and picturing a relaxing scene can help defuse your temper when you feel it start to boil.
Listening to music and practicing Yoga are also great stress relievers.
If you feel that your anger is still out of control after using these strategies, you may benefit from some extra help, such as:
Reading further books on anger management.
Seeing a licensed therapist or counselor.
Attending anger management classes or support groups where others discuss ways to cope with their anger.
No matter how severe your anger may be, these tips and techniques can help you control your temper, rather than letting it control you. Free yourself from anger and find greater joy in your life today!
Kind Regards
Sunder T.
When someone cuts you off on the freeway, do you give in to your rage? Do you burst out in anger when your child misbehaves?
Anger is a very natural emotion. However, learning to deal with your anger in a positive manner is important, both for your well-being and that of others who are near and dear to you. When you cannot control your temper, you and everyone around you suffer the consequences.
If you struggle with anger management, the good news is: it doesn't have to be this way! You don't have to fall victim to an uncontrollable temper. There are anger management techniques that will help you change the way you express this emotion.
These strategies can help you manage your anger in positive ways:
1. Give yourself a time out. Counting to ten before you speak or act gives you a chance to think first. Take a deep breath or two while you count to ten; this action helps relax your tense muscles and sends a burst of oxygen to your brain for clarity of thought.
Removing yourself altogether from the situation gives you more time to calm down and further reduces the risk of an angry outburst. You can return once you're able to discuss the issue peacefully.
2. Take some personal space. When the very presence of a specific person makes your blood boil, stay away from them until your frustration dies down. Use the opportunity away from them to work through your feelings and seek a positive solution to your challenge with them.
3. After you're calm, express yourself. It's healthy to express your feelings, even feelings of anger, as long as you do it in a peaceful, positive, and non-confrontational way.
Discussing your feelings with the person who upsets you often helps both of you understand each other better so you can work out your issues.
Stewing about what is bothering you can make the whole situation worse.
4. Exercise. Strenuous physical activity is an incredible way to release your anger, especially if you feel you're at the breaking point. Exercising also releases endorphins, the "feel good" hormones, which will help you feel more at peace. A۬
Lifting weights, running, and playing sports are great ways to blow off some steam.
5. Think it through before you tackle the issue. When you're angry, you're more likely to say something hurtful that you don't really mean.
Write down what you want to say so you can work through the issue at hand; when your temper is flaring, it's easy to get sidetracked.
6. Find a win-win solution. Instead of focusing on what someone did to make you angry, work with him or her to resolve the issue. Finding a solution that you both agree on will allow you to feel satisfied.
7. Use personal statements when discussing the issue. Avoid criticizing or placing blame.
Use statements like, "It makes me feel angry and upset when you don't help me with the housework," instead of "You never help me," which could make that person angry or resentful in return.
8. Avoid holding a grudge. Maintaining resentment toward someone only hurts you. Let it go, put it in the past, and move forward with your life.
It's unreasonable to expect everyone to act the way you want them to. Rather than letting someone continue to irritate you with their mannerisms, find a way to accept or look past them.
9. Use humor. Lighten up the situation by saying or doing something genuinely funny. Once you both have a good laugh, it's easier to find a resolution together.
When being humorous, avoid sarcasm as it can hurt and make things worse.
10. Practice relaxation techniques. Skills like deep breathing and picturing a relaxing scene can help defuse your temper when you feel it start to boil.
Listening to music and practicing Yoga are also great stress relievers.
If you feel that your anger is still out of control after using these strategies, you may benefit from some extra help, such as:
Reading further books on anger management.
Seeing a licensed therapist or counselor.
Attending anger management classes or support groups where others discuss ways to cope with their anger.
No matter how severe your anger may be, these tips and techniques can help you control your temper, rather than letting it control you. Free yourself from anger and find greater joy in your life today!
Kind Regards
Sunder T.
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
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sunderblogger: sunderblogger.blogspot.147: Change election rules to keep criminals out of politics. With corruption rolling the Parliament and public life, the present ruling govern...
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Change election rules to keep criminals out of politics.
With corruption rolling the Parliament and public life, the present ruling government can send a message about the seriousness of its intent to cleanse politics by swiftly passing into law proposed amendment to the Representation of the Peoples Act, 1951. With the objective of debarring criminals from entering politics, the amendments would disqualify any candidate with serious criminal charges-terrorism, murder, sexual assault, kidnapping etc.-from contesting elections. The law can be further improved by adding big-ticket corruption to the list of serious crimes.
Best Wishes!
Sunder Thadani
With corruption rolling the Parliament and public life, the present ruling government can send a message about the seriousness of its intent to cleanse politics by swiftly passing into law proposed amendment to the Representation of the Peoples Act, 1951. With the objective of debarring criminals from entering politics, the amendments would disqualify any candidate with serious criminal charges-terrorism, murder, sexual assault, kidnapping etc.-from contesting elections. The law can be further improved by adding big-ticket corruption to the list of serious crimes.
Best Wishes!
Sunder Thadani
Tuesday, June 24, 2014
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every profession has its occupational hazards. Sportsmen who make their living room rackets tend to develop tennis elbows. Those who mop and sweep one apartment after the other are prone to housemaid`s knee. Garbage collectors are not used to looking up while astronomers lose focus on anything below sky-level. And newspaper journalists keep getting asked when they are going to write books even though much of what they scribble has shelf life of 24 hours.
Kind Regards!
Sunder T
Kind Regards!
Sunder T
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An aware mind is one that knows that a problem or issue exists but does nothing about it. It is easy to be lazy. Laziness requires no efforts. To be active requires effort. Let us take a look at mind control. Tempestuous thoughts arise daily in an agitated mind. There could be virtuous thoughts but they might get buried, when the mind is stressed. Even if these were to manifest outwardly, by their sheer nature they would bring benefit to us or those around us. However, we need to be extra cautious of the arising of non-virtuous ones.
Best Wishes!
sunder.thadani
Best Wishes!
sunder.thadani
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sunderblogger: sunderblogger.blogspot.144: we are never without an identity. In the system in which we are living, there are set patterns of life. Due to our ignorance we create fra...
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we are never without an identity. In the system in which we are living, there are set patterns of life.
Due to our ignorance we create frames. A framed life is never happy, never satisfied because we really belong to the frameless source. If our life belongs to the frameless source, how can you define it in a frame? Can you capture the whole of the ocean in a cup?
Our ideal identity is no identity-to become zero, to live with a zero identity. We worship those who have attained this state. Either acquire a zero identity or become everything. Never identify yourself with one thing at all. Either identity with nothing or identity with everything never be in-between. That is the faith you should have in yourself.
First has faith in yourself, with whatever identity you are living, had full faith in that. If you have no faith in yourself, faith in the Divine alone will not work.
Best Wishes!
Sunder Thadani.
Due to our ignorance we create frames. A framed life is never happy, never satisfied because we really belong to the frameless source. If our life belongs to the frameless source, how can you define it in a frame? Can you capture the whole of the ocean in a cup?
Our ideal identity is no identity-to become zero, to live with a zero identity. We worship those who have attained this state. Either acquire a zero identity or become everything. Never identify yourself with one thing at all. Either identity with nothing or identity with everything never be in-between. That is the faith you should have in yourself.
First has faith in yourself, with whatever identity you are living, had full faith in that. If you have no faith in yourself, faith in the Divine alone will not work.
Best Wishes!
Sunder Thadani.
Monday, June 23, 2014
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we are never without an identity. In the system we are living there are set patterns of life. Doctor, master genius, this, that …. You are choosing your identity, so good, choose any identity, have full faith in that. If you feel like you are an artist then be an artist then be an artist, never doubt your identity. Ninety percent of people have identity but no faith in their identity, and they confuse themselves and have a miserable life.
We should have courage to break the system and discover a new identity in which we have faith. Then you can create better possibilities for life. Everything is in your hands; you have to decide what you want.
First of all understand your life, value it and then make your life useful, purposeful. If the definition of your life is limited your life will always be limited, if your definition of life is vaster, without boundaries or frames then you can live without limit. Every day, write you definition of life and in a few days that will give you a complete picture of you, you can check your frame-or whether your picture is frame-less.
Best Wishes!
Sunder Thadani
We should have courage to break the system and discover a new identity in which we have faith. Then you can create better possibilities for life. Everything is in your hands; you have to decide what you want.
First of all understand your life, value it and then make your life useful, purposeful. If the definition of your life is limited your life will always be limited, if your definition of life is vaster, without boundaries or frames then you can live without limit. Every day, write you definition of life and in a few days that will give you a complete picture of you, you can check your frame-or whether your picture is frame-less.
Best Wishes!
Sunder Thadani
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