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Sunderblogger.007 It's often difficult to say no because of the desire to be loved: we want to be helpful, we want to show we care, but we may have little to give, are tired, overworked, or need alone time. Do you feel that if you aren't there for someone, they may reject you? Or that you're somehow obliged to help as it makes you a good' person, parent or friend? Do you ever feel validated by being needed? It's easy to believe that any time you take to relax or meditate is time that could be used elsewhere. But taking time out doesn't mean it is selfish or even wasted time. Think about what happens when your day is spent constantly caring for others. Do you get resentful, irritated, or even angry? Do you find stress building up? Does the quality of care that you offer become affected by that inner tension? Or are you so used to being this way that it seems impossible to imagine being any other way? You may even think you're not the relaxing type, or that if you do relax you won't be able to cope with all the things you have to do. However, by taking time for yourself, by lowering your blood pressure and releasing stress, you are immediately creating a more harmonious environment that can only benefit all those around you. When you take time out to be quiet it means you don't get so angry, resentful, or frustrated; instead, you connect with who you really are. Then what you share with others is coming from that peaceful space. When you are energized and feeling good you will be able to do far more than if you are dragging yourself through your day with little energy or in a bad mood. So, rather than being selfish, such activity is actually the least selfish thing you could do! This is when saying no to others means you are affirming yourself. The power of saying no is that you are empowered! Best Wishes Sunder Thadani

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sunderblogger: sunderblogger.sunderblog.life4living.007: Sunderblogger.007 It's often difficult to say no because of the desire to be loved: we want to be helpful, we want to show we care,...

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Sunderblogger.007 It's often difficult to say no because of the desire to be loved: we want to be helpful, we want to show we care, but we may have little to give, are tired, overworked, or need alone time. Do you feel that if you aren't there for someone, they may reject you? Or that you're somehow obliged to help as it makes you a good' person, parent or friend? Do you ever feel validated by being needed? It's easy to believe that any time you take to relax or meditate is time that could be used elsewhere. But taking time out doesn't mean it is selfish or even wasted time. Think about what happens when your day is spent constantly caring for others. Do you get resentful, irritated, or even angry? Do you find stress building up? Does the quality of care that you offer become affected by that inner tension? Or are you so used to being this way that it seems impossible to imagine being any other way? You may even think you're not the relaxing type, or that if you do relax you won't be able to cope with all the things you have to do. However, by taking time for yourself, by lowering your blood pressure and releasing stress, you are immediately creating a more harmonious environment that can only benefit all those around you. When you take time out to be quiet it means you don't get so angry, resentful, or frustrated; instead, you connect with who you really are. Then what you share with others is coming from that peaceful space. When you are energized and feeling good you will be able to do far more than if you are dragging yourself through your day with little energy or in a bad mood. So, rather than being selfish, such activity is actually the least selfish thing you could do! This is when saying no to others means you are affirming yourself. The power of saying no is that you are empowered! Best Wishes Sunder T

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Sunderblogger.006 Choose Your Options with Care. Everyday in our life, we perhaps have some kind of bad experience, big or small. One has two options: either ignore them or react. The first option is a form of forgiveness, while the other amounts to engagement and in some cases, even revenge. Which is the better option? Forgiveness is a better option for it is based on a proven formula: `save yourself`. Forgiveness saves you from distraction, it saves your time, and it saves you from creating more problems. Forgiveness could amount to an instant solution to the problem. In contrast, reaction and emotional revenge means turning the bad into worse, for revenge tends to worsen the problem. If forgiveness is buying time, revenge is just wasting time without hope of any positive result. “To error is human, but to forgive is divine” For the core, aren`t we all really divine beings? Best wishes! Sunder T

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Sunderblogger.002 Diversity at the workplace has led to an increase in interaction between colleagues on the opposite sex- so much so, that these days, it just seem to make eminent sense to have a purely platonic girlfriend or boyfriend at the office work spouse, if you will. Having a work spouse is more than simple jokes and fun, as they are uniquely bonded individuals who can relate and provide blog support during stressful times. Even tough by pure definition, work-spouse relationships are platonic. It`s the latent possibility for hanky panky that makes relationship experts wary of such associations. It is too easy for any boy-girl kind of relationships to morph into a dangerous affair. Your comments are most welcome. Best Wishes Sunder T

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Sunderblogger.005 Telecommuting is the new-age work mantra. Technology has made so many lives easier, and is constantly changing the way businesses are being done. Online text books, video conferencing, checking e-mail on your mobile phones, the list is endless. One such fast growing trend is that of telecommuting and tele-working. The basic equipment a remote worker needs is a telephone and a high-speed broadband connection. The technology like IP telephony allows telecommuters to send voice, fax and other information over the Internet. Best Wishes sunder.thadani

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Sunderblogger.004 In order to impact society, our individual development, whether spiritual or material, must contribute to collective development. What good is individual growth and development if it remains inside the boundries of our own skin? Would`nt the world around us change dramitacally if we turned our inwards orientation outward- and reflected our development through servie to society? Best Wishes! Sunder T

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Sunderblogger.003 Stress signs: (irritability, depression, heart palpitations, fatigue, compulsive eating’s, unexplained anxiety, insomnia and body aches and pains). Source of stress: environment (noise, pollution, world events) Our Personal lives (work, family, relationships, peer pressure, finances, social events, deadlines); our physical health: (illness, poor nutrition, ageing, injury, lack of exercise) our thoughts (negative emotions –anger, guilt, grief, trauma and obsessive thoughts), Results: Stress becomes a negative event when the situation appears dangerous, painful or unfair and we don`t have the resources to cope. Too many negative events experienced over a long period of time can result in a compromised immune system and subsequent health problems. Solution for managing stress (1) Practice physical and mental relaxation technique; (2) Eat a healthful diet rich in fruits, vegetables and whole grains (3) Drink plenty of water (4) Exercise regularly (5) Laugh often Self-hypnosis is an excellent technique for alleviating stress-related conditions such as headaches, insomnia, nervous tics, nail-biting, anxiety and high blood pressure. Medication, visualization and deep breathing are relaxation techniques that help the body recovery physically and emotionally from the harmful effects of stress. You need a getaway form stress in order to recharge and retune your life. Best Wishes! sunder.thadani

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Sunderblogger.001 Subject: In Pursuit of Perfection All of us have some vanity. Vanity is nature`s insurance for self-preservation and to that extent it is a necessity. But it was also vanity that drove Snow White`s stepmother to act in a way that eventually led to her downfall. The transition from what is part of self-preservation to that which enables self-destruction is so smooth that it is difficult to separate self-obsession from self-preservation. Not everyone is vain about their looks alone, their vanity could lie elsewhere. Each one has something he thinks he is good at. Even ascetics have their share of vanity in their power of being austere or “proximity to the superpower”. The one who is vain about her hair is careful when washing it or brushing it. The one, who is vain about his house, takes pain to maintain it. Vanity is also the path to perfection, which is worthy goal to strive for. But sometimes life does not respect your vanity and an accident, age or even may strike at it. How then does one cope? There are two kinds of vanity. One is vanity of the spirit. That, one must guard against. The spirit has to be joyous, happy and positive. The other kind of vanity is that which is born from ideas and norms laid down by society. This kind of vanity is what we all often gloat in. Where you feel you have to improve, work at it. But where society feels you have not made the mark, make an indelible one with your vain spirit, even it takes a little longer to do so. Best Wishes! Sunder T

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This blog starts as no. 154- India`s main cause of poverty is that there ar too many leeches in the country. Nobody knows the count. There are thousands of sadhus, fakirs and yogis. Their name is leion. India`s beggers, widows, and disabed are many. It is an endless "and". It makes India the land of wretchedesst standards of life in Asia.No legislation can remove ths blot, but a revolutionary education that changes the psychology of the people. We must learn once again "the Gospel of the Dirty Hand". Indian have not understood the meaning of the phrase: "Work whie you work, play while you play." Indians invriably mix up work with play and play with work, so that they can neither play nor work will. Kind Regards! Sunder T.

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This blog starts as no.153. In India there are provileged beings. The truth is that too many Indian like to be like this. They have no objection, no scrupple, no sense of inferiority, to asking for alms. Amazing isn`t? Yet Indian are supposed to be very proud nation. False diginity has made Indians poorer and poorer, century after century. Instead of doing the job that is to be dne, they say; "It`s not for me. Let someone else perform it". So in the midst of so many taks to be accomplished in India, we find armies of idlers who cry: "give us money, we are poort." They forget tht they themselves are responsible for their conditon. Kind Regards! Sunder T

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india_withoutmakeup starts with no. 152. India has been suffering from a confusion of ideas. This load she has never learned to carry lightly. It makes her stoop and stumble. Why be fincicky? Let it be said that India`s past us a drag upon her. It makes every movement of hers slow and ponderous. She is unable to go forwardd joyously; she is always looking backward as though some invisible toe were touching her heel. She is ever conscious of being tripped up. Indians for centuries have behaved like members of an old imporerished family whose one concern is to keep up appearances. They may no do this, that, or the other; they ae surrounded by a Chinese wall of taboos. they have fantastic views about diginity and labour. The lowliest Indian is fully convinced that a certain job of work is beneath him. He would sooner starve than take it up. Kind Regards! Sunder T.

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"In our life, we seem to assume and ascribe false identities. We tend to hold a person responsible for what he did, good or bad, when spiritual wisdom says that we are not the doers; prakiti, the devine phenomenon behind creation, is the doer. Thus, we deify someone when he obliges us in a signicant way. On the other hand, if we are hurt in some way by someone`s act of commission or omission, we nurse an enmity against him". This what Kishore Kulkerni said in the peaking tree. Kind Regards! Sunder T.

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this blog starts as no. 151. India`s orthodoxy is her stumbling-block. India has forgotten the nobliglity of the past, and us undable to learn what is noble in the present. India has the worst enemy of both Inidan unity and Indian social intgration. In order to preseve it own moth-eaten beliefs, India is trying to destroy the life-giving elements of her experiement. India`s problem is clear. Indian orthodoxy, the false keeper of her consecinece, mut, to use a Churchillian expression, go, or we are lost. It has made blood-brother destroy blood-brother, and has proved to be the greatest fratiricide in histry. Kind Regards! Sunder T.

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This blog starts as 150. India needs a re-orientation of education along lines already known as social intermingling on the basis of equality; booting into the dustbin of taboos about food, drink and dress; the same economic oppotunities for all; an abolition of outward deistinctions (facial or bodily sings must no longer identify one as a Hindu, Muslim, Chritain or Parsi); and the seeking of similar ends, personally and nationally. India has to tell her people boldly that India has been a race of Rip Van Winkles too long; it is high time that India wakes up and remembered her star spangled destiny. All this is possible, especially as the increasing temp of industratlization is tending to break down isolation from community to community, family to family, individual to individual. The machine has become today a great force; it can liberate the intellectual from his drudgery and the under-dog from the filthy work that he has been forced to do for innumerable generation. Kind Regards! Sunder T.

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This blog starts as n.149-Talking about two communities, Hindus and Muslims, theinitiative must come from the Hindus, the prominet set, the torchbearers of Indiaism. Hindus should realize that they have the capaciy to squeeze out the essence of Islam and mix it with the stream of their thought. Hindus have to do here, with metronomic precision (or what is the good of India`s having a nuclear reactor?), what our ancestors did do effectively but unscientifically with Buddism. With one word, rightly pronounce by the right people, Mohammed can become an honoured member of the Hindu pantheon. If Hanuman, a jungle dweller, could attain the status of a god, why not the great Prophet of Islam? This is basic. The Hindus must evolve, like the Americans, a particular way of life. What will be the ingrediens of the new mode? Here is what you can with your mind`s eye. It is nothing of an Oriental extravaganza. Kind Regards! Sunder T

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