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Destroy those envying roots and enjoy lasting peace. Just be aware when the feeling of
 jealousy arises, and you will be surprise, it simply disappears. Jealousy cannot be overcome either by escaping from it or hating the object of jealousy.

Understand the way out of jealousy is not be surprising it or denying its existence. 
Expressing and encouraging it is also not the way because then you are not ready
to face he jealousy with awareness. Just watch how jealousy arise in you,
how it develops into hatred for the object of jealousy, how it creates restlessness
and frustration inside you and make you lose all of your peace and calm.

Do not condemn the object of jealousy. The object has not generated the
emotions from outside. The jealousy is happening inside you. The fire of jealousy
can just consume you completely if you don’t control it with the fire extinguisher of
you awareness. Once you witness your jealousy with awareness, you will realize
that it does not have a basis for existence at all.  When this happens, jealously
will drop automatically. You won`t have to drop it.

Best Wishes!
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Sunderblogger.015 The 7 systems of balance: The secret to a balanced life is in the balance of passion and structure. The wonders of our age, all of the new ways to do things, all of the new ways to be in contact with others, the access to any and all sources of information, all of the new ways to travel, all these limitless opportunities make it possible for you to pursue your passion, your ideas, you interest, your love. In pursuing our passion to be happy, we ultimately become unhappy. Why? The missing ingredient is balance. It is just how human beings are made. In order to be happy, your life must be balance. Otherwise your body and brain send you powerful signals, telling you that something is wrong. You see, your body and your brain are only trying to help you. The signals tell you that it is time to do something about the imbalance in your life or problems are sure to arise. Done in the right way, pursuing your passion can turn you on, it can lead you to new ground, and it can help you to realize your dreams. Best wishes! Sunder.thadani.

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Sunderblogger.014 when one criticizes you, it teaches that no two people are alike. When someone breaks your heart, it teaches you that loving someone does not always mean that love will come back to you the way you want it to. Best Wishes sunder.thadani

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Sunderblogger.013 In a society in which instant food, instant education and even instant cities are everyday phenomena, no product is more swiftly fabricated or more ruthlessly destroyed than the instant celebrity. Nations advancing towards super-industrialism sharply step up their out of these “psycho-economic” products. Instant celebrities burst upon the consciousness of millions like an image-bomb-which is exactly what they are. Kind Regards Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.011 We as human beings have power - not just to cause harm and create terror but to help ourselves of this seemingly hopeless scenario of doom and gloom. It might seem contradictory that people are empowered and empower others, merely by being kind and compassionate and not because they are overbearing, manipulative and unkind and force their view on others. A kind word, a good deed, a caring gesture, a warm simile, all these are like power kegs. Kindness and compassion spring from inner security whereas aggression and hatred come from inner insecurity. When our backs are up against the wall, positive inner resources come to the rescue. Sometimes they are invisible but in times of distress, they give us strength and help us emerge as powerful game changers Kind Regards Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.010 Being hooked thrives on the underlying insecurity of living in an unpredictable world. We experience this insecurity as unease or restlessness. Wanting some kind of relief from this, we turn to what we enjoy, what comforts us. Perhaps it`s food, alcohol, drugs, sex, work or shopping. In moderation, these are delightful; we can appreciate their taste, their presence in our life. But we empower any of them with the idea that this will bring us comfort, that it will remove our unease, then we get hooked. And stay hooked. Kind Regards Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.009 Heart palpitations, tremors, insomnia or unexplained fatigue may well signal overstimulation, just as confusion, unusual irritability, profound lassitude and panicky sense that things are slipping out of control are psychological indications. By observing ourselves, looking back over the changes in our recent past, we can determine whether we are operating comfortably within our adaptive range or pressing, its outer limits. Having done this, we can also begin consciously to influence it- speeding it up or slowing it down- first with respect to small things, the micro-environment, and then in terms of the larger, structural pattern of experience. We can learn how by scrutinizing our own unpremeditated response to overstimulation. Kind Regards Sunder Thadani from Mumbai

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Sunderblogger.008 In the next half century, with the world facing challenges and discontinuities we will more than ever, need entrepreneurs in all domains. Only entrepreneurs can turn these challenges into opportunities and bring about change that will take us into more sustainable and equitable era by 2050. Times may be changing, but opportunities are ample. While a new breed of young entrepreneurs is ready to take on the world, there will be lot of ups and downs. While the highs are the best highs one can have the lows are the worst lows that one can be victims of. Overcome those lows, because there were no lows there would be no highs. So don`t give us. If your first idea doesn’t work, try another. Seek the advice of your contemporaries, people who are a bit ahead of you as well as people who are bit behind you. Learn from each other and support each other. Kind Regards Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.007a It's often difficult to say no because of the desire to be loved: we want to be helpful, we want to show we care, but we may have little to give, are tired, overworked, or need alone time. Do you feel that if you aren't there for someone, they may reject you? Or that you're somehow obliged to help as it makes you a good' person, parent or friend? Do you ever feel validated by being needed? It's easy to believe that any time you take to relax or meditate is time that could be used elsewhere. But taking time out doesn't mean it is selfish or even wasted time. Think about what happens when your day is spent constantly caring for others. Do you get resentful, irritated, or even angry? Do you find stress building up? Does the quality of care that you offer become affected by that inner tension? Or are you so used to being this way that it seems impossible to imagine being any other way? You may even think you're not the relaxing type, or that if you do relax you won't be able to cope with all the things you have to do. However, by taking time for yourself, by lowering your blood pressure and releasing stress, you are immediately creating a more harmonious environment that can only benefit all those around you. When you take time out to be quiet it means you don't get so angry, resentful, or frustrated; instead, you connect with who you really are. Then what you share with others is coming from that peaceful space. When you are energized and feeling good you will be able to do far more than if you are dragging yourself through your day with little energy or in a bad mood.

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Sunderblogger.006 Choose Your Options with Care. Everyday in our life, we perhaps have some kind of bad experience, big or small. One has two options: either ignore them or react. The first option is a form of forgiveness, while the other amounts to engagement and in some cases, even revenge. Which is the better option? Forgiveness is a better option for it is based on a proven formula: `save yourself`. Forgiveness saves you from distraction, it saves your time, and it saves you from creating more problems. Forgiveness could amount to an instant solution to the problem. In contrast, reaction and emotional revenge means turning the bad into worse, for revenge tends to worsen the problem. If forgiveness is buying time, revenge is just wasting time without hope of any positive result. “To error is human, but to forgive is divine” For the core, aren`t we all really divine beings? Best wishes! Sunder.thadani

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Sunderblogger.005 Telecommuting is the new-age work mantra. Technology has made so many lives easier, and is constantly changing the way businesses are being done. Online text books, video conferencing, checking e-mail on your mobile phones, the list is endless. One such fast growing trend is that of telecommuting and tele-working. The basic equipment a remote worker needs is a telephone and a high-speed broadband connection. The technology like IP telephony allows telecommuters to send voice, fax and other information over the Internet. Best Wishes sunder.thadani

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Sunderblogger.004 In order to impact society, our individual development, whether spiritual or material, must contribute to collective development. What good is individual growth and development if it remains inside the boundaries of our own skin? Wouldn't the world around us change dramatically if we turned our inwards orientation outward- and reflected our development through service to society? Best Wishes! Sunder T
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This is sunderblSunderblogger.003 Stress signs: (irritability, depression, heart palpitations, fatigue, compulsive eating’s, unexplained anxiety, insomnia and body aches and pains). Source of stress: environment (noise, pollution, world events) Our Personal lives (work, family, relationships, peer pressure, finances, social events, deadlines); our physical health: (illness, poor nutrition, ageing, injury, lack of exercise) our thoughts (negative emotions –anger, guilt, grief, trauma and obsessive thoughts), Results: Stress becomes a negative event when the situation appears dangerous, painful or unfair and we don`t have the resources to cope. Too many negative events experienced over a long period of time can result in a compromised immune system and subsequent health problems. Solution for managing stress (1) Practice physical and mental relaxation technique; (2) Eat a healthful diet rich in fruits, vegetables and whole grains (3) Drink plenty of water (4) Exercise regularly (5) Laugh often Self-hypnosis is an excellent technique for alleviating stress-related conditions such as headaches, insomnia, nervous tics, nail-biting, anxiety and high blood pressure. Medication, visualization and deep breathing are relaxation techniques that help the body recovery physically and emotionally from the harmful effects of stress. You need a getaway form stress in order to recharge and retune your life. Best Wishes! sunder.thadani

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A helpful observaton by the voilinist Fritz Kreisler, who was credited with the distinguished musical achievement that gave him rank as an inspired artust; "we voiolinist should not always be thinking of our place under the stars. We should think rather of what we have to offer the world, and in the offering remember that every single one of us has a quality peculiar to himself. I have often listened with pleasure o a quite ordinary violinist of no special gifts who, perhaps, has told me something that could not be told to me by the finest virtuouso. We, all of us, in music have our own special contributions to offer, whether we stand high or low on the ladder of what the world calls fame." Kind Regards! Sunder T.
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Sunderblogger.002 Diversity at the workplace has led to an increase in interaction between colleagues on the opposite sex- so much so, that these days, it just seem to make eminent sense to have a purely platonic girlfriend or boyfriend at the office work spouse, if you will. Having a work spouse is more than simple jokes and fun, as they are uniquely bonded individuals who can relate and provide blog support during stressful times. Even tough by pure definition, work-spouse relationships are platonic. It`s the latent possibility for hanky panky that makes relationship experts wary of such associations. It is too easy for any boy-girl kind of relationships to morph into a dangerous affair. Your comments are most welcome. Best Wishes Sunder T.

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Sunderblogger.001 Subject: In Pursuit of Perfection All of us have some vanity. Vanity is nature`s insurance for self-preservation and to that extent it is a necessity. But it was also vanity that drove Snow White`s stepmother to act in a way that eventually led to her downfall. The transition from what is part of self-preservation to that which enables self-destruction is so smooth that it is difficult to separate self-obsession from self-preservation. Not everyone is vain about their looks alone, their vanity could lie elsewhere. Each one has something he thinks he is good at. Even ascetics have their share of vanity in their power of being austere or “proximity to the superpower”. The one who is vain about her hair is careful when washing it or brushing it. The one, who is vain about his house, takes pain to maintain it. Vanity is also the path to perfection, which is worthy goal to strive for. But sometimes life does not respect your vanity and an accident, age or even may strike at it. How then does one cope? There are two kinds of vanity. One is vanity of the spirit. That, one must guard against. The spirit has to be joyous, happy and positive. The other kind of vanity is that which is born from ideas and norms laid down by society. This kind of vanity is what we all often gloat in. Where you feel you have to improve, work at it. But where society feels you have not made the mark, make an indelible one with your vain spirit, even it takes a little longer to do so. Best Wishes! Sunder T

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