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Sunderblogger.169 Adapt to any condition. Life is found in the deep sea and in the bowels of the earth. Many creatures live their whole lives thus quite happily. Family, friends, ask you to stop worrying. Yet you love to worry! Don’t dwell in the past or worry about the future. Don`t have expectations, indulging in thoughts of marking vast sums of money; receiving abundance love; getting recognition and honor for a live time of work. If you think you will be happy when some of these dreams come true, you are chasing a mirage. Be happy as you now are and enjoy peace. Kind Regards Sunder Thadani

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sunderblogger Sunderblogger.168 Adapt to any condition, life is found in the deep sea and in the bowels of the earth. Many creatures live their whole lives thus quite happily. Family, friends, ask you to stop worrying. Yet you love to worry! Don’t dwell in the past or worry about the future. Don`t have expectations, indulging in thoughts of marking vast sums of money; receiving abundance love; getting recognition and honor for a live time of work. If you think you will be happy when some of these dreams come true, you are chasing a mirage. Be happy as you now are and enjoy peace. Kind Regards Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.167 Medication is the journey from movement to stillness, from sound to silence. The need is present in you to meditate because it is our natural tendency to look for undiminished joy and love that does not distort or turn negative. Medication is food for the soul. When you are hungry, spontaneously you eat something. If you are thirsty, you drink water. Similarly, the soul yearns for meditation and this tendency is in everyone. Best Wishes! Sunder.thadani

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Sunderbloger.166 Work on Bringing Balance to your life. Work-life balance is one the most misunderstood concept in our pressure-laden times. Balance means finding that optimum point where the person working in a perfect condition, in perfect harmony with his environment. Balance does not mean giving equal priority to everything. Often, people working wrongly believe that a work-life balance means dividing their time equally between work and family. Its fallacy is evident in the dissatisfaction people feel despite efforts at that `misunderstood` balance. The answer to work-life balance is not in balancing one`s work with one`s family, for that simply means more work; it means balancing one`s work with one`s life. Your life includes you, your health, spiritual evolution, mental vigor, attitude and tenacity social presence, friends AND your family. This sudden expansion in your life can be a shock and lead you to spin on all these factors. Let me tell you a secret; you don`t have to work at the balance, the balance work at you. You will be amazed that we all have an inherent mechanism that warns us when our life is going off balance. Make no comprises on your health or your body will make you a slave. Kind Regards Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.165 India`s soil, climate and vegetation have played their part in molding Indian. As there is a lot of nonsense talked on this subject, let me linger over it a little. Every country affects its dwellers in a particular way. A psychologist has observed that a monkey sent to Germany for scientific observation begin to brood and behave like a Teuton, while the same monkey dispatched to the United States reacts like a restless American, always on the go. Whatever comes and lives in India, undergoes a subtle change of psyche. Is value altering. The boundaries of good and evil, so clear before, now begin to melt a move. He floats in a void. Best Wishes! Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.164 Destroy those envying roots and enjoy lasting peace. Just be aware when the feeling of jealousy arises, and you will be surprise, it simply disappears. Jealousy cannot be overcome either by escaping from it or hating the object of jealousy. Understand the way out of jealousy is not be surprising it or denying its existence. Expressing and encouraging it is also not the way because then you are not ready to face he jealousy with awareness. Just watch how jealousy arise in you, how it develops into hatred for the object of jealousy, how it creates restlessness and frustration inside you and make you lose all of your peace and calm. Do not condemn the object of jealousy. The object has not generated the emotions from outside. The jealousy is happening inside you. The fire of jealousy can just consume you completely if you don’t control it with the fire extinguisher of you awareness. Once you witness your jealousy with awareness, you will realize that it does not have a basis for existence at all. When this happens, jealously will drop automatically. You won`t have to drop it. Best Wishes! sunder.thadani

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Sunderblogger.163 Let us not run away with the impression that our Indian Sumerian is a pure Sumerian. Only the dominant layer in him is that; his other layers are in constant conflict with the Sumerian. Fantastic, it will be said. Not quite. Take for example, His fundamental reaction to life and thought –patterns was Western, particularly British, yet he was no more than an Englishman tan I am the Kahn of Tartary. He was a complex personality, and affords the best example of my contention. Nehru could identify himself closely with almost every type of Indian: he felt with the Naga: with the Brahmin like a Brahmin: with the Muslim like a Muslim: with the untouchable like an untouchable; yet at heart he was none of these. What he was, I am sure, he himself did not know. He had deep urges and large dreams –that`s all. Here was our typically complex and contradictory Indian. There is no doubt that our various racial strains have made us what we are at present-a people with no distinctive soul, but with only a many-colored psyche. But to say this is not to say all. Best Wishes! Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.162 Aryanism, of which we have become particularly proud since independence, is, we examine matters without priories, integumentary. The essence lies elsewhere. The Indian spirit is basically pre_Aryan. The Dravidian element in it is predominant (as we see today,) but the total influences go further back. We have heard the phrase “Mother India”; India is much more than; she is the Granny of Nations. Her soul (there’s, I repeat, no “it” about it) is steeped in the leadings and misleading of many civilizations. Whatever races came to India- they were attracted to her like moths to a flame- had one peculiarity: they refused to be integrated. Despite the terrific pressure of the anonymous multitudes around them, they remained undigested chunks. Hence the Indian paradox: one Indian reacts like Scythian, another like a Sumerian, a third like a Greek, a fourth like an Arab, and so the complicated tale continues. Best Wishes Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.164 Let us not run away with the impression that our Indian Sumerian is a pure Sumerian. Only the dominant layer in him is that; his other layers are in constant conflict with the Sumerian. Fantastic, it will be said. Not quite. Take for example, His fundamental reaction to life and thought –patterns was Western, particularly British, yet he was no more than an Englishman tan I am the Kahn of Tartary. He was a complex personality, and affords the best example of my contention. Nehru could identify himself closely with almost every type of Indian: he felt with the Naga: with the Brahmin like a Brahmin: with the Muslim like a Muslim: with the untouchable like an untouchable; yet at heart he was none of these. What he was, I am sure, he himself did not know. He had deep urges and large dreams –that`s all. Here was our typically complex and contradictory Indian. There is no doubt that our various racial strains have made us what we are at present-a people with no distinctive soul, but with only a many-colored psyche. But to say this is not to say all. Best Wishes! Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.164 Aryanism, of which we have become particularly proud since independence, is, we examine matters without priories, integumentary. The essence lies elsewhere. The Indian spirit is basically pre_Aryan. The Dravidian element in it is predominant (as we see today,) but the total influences go further back. We have heard the phrase “Mother India”; India is much more than; she is the Granny of Nations. Her soul (there’s, I repeat, no “it” about it) is steeped in the leadings and misleading of many civilizations. Whatever races came to India- they were attracted to her like moths to a flame- had one peculiarity: they refused to be integrated. Despite the terrific pressure of the anonymous multitudes around them, they remained undigested chunks. Hence the Indian paradox: one Indian reacts like Scythian, another like a Sumerian, a third like a Greek, a fourth like an Arab, and so the complicated tale continues. Best Wishes Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.161 Life Lesson #1 – Let it go. Anger is never just anger. Anger is a cover up for fear, hurt, or disappointment. I can’t tell you the number of days I stressed myself out in my 20’s because I was angry at another person and did not want to forgive them. I literally made myself sick over it. The ironic thing about anger is that the joke is on the angry person. When you're angry, it hurts you more because you have to spend your precious time and energy holding on to negative energy. Sadly, that negative energy often blocks the positive energy from coming into your life. So let it go so that you can let that positive light in. Appreciate the person that you're angry with and learn to live with them the way they are. If someone is constantly upsetting you, appreciate the fact that you are strong enough to disassociate yourself from them. You don't need to stick around! Life Lesson #2 – It’s really not about you. When loved ones, co-workers, or even strangers say and do hurtful things, many times it is really not about you. People in this world have some serious issues. And, because they don’t deal with their issues, they project those issues onto you. The mother who thinks she is the worst mom will project and tell another mom how bad their kid is. The teen who thinks she is ugly will project and make fun of another teen. The boss who can’t manage his team will try to micromanage your work. So the next time someone does something hurtful to you, remember two things, they act like that towards other people as well, and it’s not about you!! Life Lesson #3 – Others have gone through the same problems that you have today. This is one I am still working on because I am a pretty private person. But I have to believe that when you go through things, one of the main reasons is to help others at one point and time through the same obstacle. The problem is that everyone wants to put on the mask that their life is grand, secretly hiding away any perfections. If no one knows your true journey, they can’t seek you out for help. It’s not an easy thing to do; it’s not like your Uncle Joe shouts out to everyone ‘Hey Everyone, I’m in foreclosure, now let’s eat.’ BUT, if he did, he would attract others that have been through the same experience, and could change a life for the better. Life Lesson #4 – Enjoy it now. As I look back at my last 29 years of life, there were so many special moments that came and went. I wish I would have sat back and enjoyed the moments more. Absorb the good times because they are the first things you forget. Life Lesson #5 – Power of Persistence There is something about the power of daily focused effort that seems to be a common theme in successful people. It’s the difference between ball players and NBA players, the difference between a Life Lesson #6 – I get it now when people talk about having passion as a requirement for excellence. If you want to excel as a fashion designer, working towards that goal should generally win over other distractions. When presented with the opportunity to watch TV or hang out with friends instead of working to, if you constantly choose those distractions over working on fashion, you must consider that fashion is not your passion. I am not saying that you can't relax, but I'm saying that before you choose a life goal or a 'passion', be sure it's something that you, in your heart, really enjoy and love doing. Life Lesson #7 – Relationships can be your greatest teacher. I feel that everyone should do a lessons learned exercise after each relationship AND after every couple of years in a marriage. Each relationship is a reflection of you (whether good or bad). Subconsciously it’s a reflection of our deepest insecurities and needs. And if you really take the time to reflect the good or bad times, it is a window into your soul. Taking the time to review your past will be time well spent. Life Lesson #8– Don’t sleep on the power of the internet there are thousands upon thousands of people making a good amount of money online. The BEST thing about online business is that is has no face. So you can no longer say you’re being judged by your race, background, lack of a degree, etc. The internet levels the playing field. Quality content speaks louder than your religion, skin color, etc. Start looking into the power of it today. Life Lesson #9 – Don’t be a “put off’ person. I spent many years putting off things because I was waiting for the situation to get better or for 'something' to happen first. News Flash – I bet you can think of a hundred reasons to keep living how you are today and not changing; SOMETHING will always be in the way or be a reason to delay. Don’t put off your happiness. If you can do something that makes you happy today, without ruining the lives of others then do it. Best Wishes! Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.160 TOI editor has well said about BJP that “it has diluted its anti-corruption stance by admitting tainted leaders. Realizing the pitfalls some among the BJP`s central leadership including Advani, Sushma Swaraj and Arun Jailtley, have tried to distance themselves from the UP state leadership. But passing the buck is pointless. Only practicing for itself what it preaches to others can help. It`s a young, 21st century electorate out there-intelligent enough to see through cynical manipulations by the political class. It won`t help at all to be seen as a chip off the old block”. Best Wishes Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.159 One of the favorite sports of India`s middle classes is bureaucracy bashing. It is an easy game to play and can be quite a lot of fun. Everyone has their favorite, outrageous story about an encounter with the bureaucracy. The inefficiency, corruption, insensitivity, stupidity and Kafkaesque circularity of bureaucratic procedures and rules are legendary. That India`s bureaucracy is one the most stifling and difficult to deal with has now been revealed in a survey. Over a thousand expatriate business executive rated India`s bureaucracy the most annoying in Asia. The problem with India is no, as we in the middle class imagine, that we have too many idle and corrupt bureaucrats. The problem is that we have too many rules and regulations and too few officials to implement and monitor the regimes, and bring to book those who flout the rules and regulations. As India`s population grows, the disequilibrium is only going to grow: more rules and regulations to be applied to more and more people by a bureaucracy that is not high enough. A conclusion: either we expand the bureaucracy or else the government will gradually wither away to the point that India will join the ranks of failed states. That would be a calamity for the Indian people. Best wishes! Sunder Thadani.

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Sunderblogger.158 everything is created by your mind, by yourself. What exists in your mind is what you created around you. If there is fear in your mind, there will be fear everywhere around you. If there are enemies in your mind, there will be enemies everywhere around you. It`s all in your mind. When we are born, our teacher is born with us. The teacher means my learning nature. The human body is a seed, and inside it the Divine is implanted. If life is in the hands of good forces, they will make your heart bigger, your mind bigger, everything will get enlarged metaphorically… your consciousness, thinking, feeling, emotions. Vastness will come. If you are in the hands of forces that are reducing your life, like jealousy, hatred, negativity, narrowness, selfishness and greed, then you are on the opposite side. What you face and owe you face it is in your hands. Kind Regards! Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.157 As human beings, according to our inborn qualities, we are complete beings. But we are dependent on two external influences; nature and society. From one major point of view, we depend complete upon nature. Water, sunlight, oxygen, food, all parts of the life-support system is supplied by nature. We cannot afford to disassociate ourselves from these natural resources. Living in a society means living with constant challenges. This perturbs people and they become individualists. But this kind of individualism is little more than escapism. Differences could be a boon, for if everyone thinks alike, no one thinks very much. So difference means diversity just like different trees enhance the beauty of a garden. We cannot afford to live in a cocoon. For the larva living in a cocoon, it is a life before an impending transformation but for us human beings, it is no less than death. Social living means living through experiences, meeting challenges, learning lessons, teaching and learning. Society is like a living university. One who tries to go against society will commit social suicide. No one can afford to opt for either natural suicide. No one can afford to opt for either natural suicide or social suicide. Therefore, complaint is a futile exercise. Adjustment to achieve mutual benefit is the only possible formula. Best Wishes! Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.156 As human beings, according to our inborn qualities, we are complete beings. But we are dependent on two external influences; nature and society. From one major point of view, we depend complete upon nature. Water, sunlight, oxygen, food, all parts of the life-support system is supplied by nature. We cannot afford to disassociate ourselves from these natural resources. Living in a society means living with constant challenges. This perturbs people and they become individualists. But this kind of individualism is little more than escapism. Differences could be a boon, for if everyone thinks alike, no one thinks very much. So difference means diversity just like different trees enhance the beauty of a garden. We cannot afford to live in a cocoon. For the larva living in a cocoon, it is a life before an impending transformation but for us human beings, it is no less than death. Social living means living through experiences, meeting challenges, learning lessons, teaching and learning. Society is like a living university. One who tries to go against society will commit social suicide. No one can afford to opt for either natural suicide. No one can afford to opt for either natural suicide or social suicide. Therefore, complaint is a futile exercise. Adjustment to achieve mutual benefit is the only possible formula. Best Wishes! Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.155 One of the favorit sports of India`s middle classes is bureaucracy bashing. It is an easy game to play and can be quite a lot of fun. Everyone has their favorite, outrageous story about an encounter with the bureaucracy. The inefficiency, corruption, insensitivity, stupidity and Kafkaesque circularity of bureaucratic procedures and rules are legendary. That India`s bureaucracy is one the most stifling and difficult to deal with has now been revealed in a survey. Over a thousand expatriate business executive rated India`s bureaucracy the most annoying in Asia. The problem with India is no, as we in the middle class imagine, that we have too many idle and corrupt bureaucrats. The problem is that we have too many rules and regulations and too few officials to implement and monitor the regimes, and bring to book those who flout the rules and regulations. As India`s population grows, the disequilibrium is only going to grow: more rules and regulations to be applied to more and more people by a bureaucracy that is not high enough. A conclusion: either we expand the bureaucracy or else the government will gradually wither away to the point that India will join the ranks of failed states. That would be a calamity for the Indian people. Best wishes! Sunder Thadani .

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Sundedrblogger.154 Change Attitude, Not Lifestyle In life, everyone is denied a few things. But all of us have been blessed with millions of gifts. If you focus on what you do not have, you will be unhappy, if you choose to focus on the things you have, you are grateful and you develop an irresistible share, contribute, and give. This makes you happy. The most precious things come for free, which you do not even consider! Hence, you live life feeling deprived and deficient when, in fact, you could be totally fulfilled and abundant. Do you have conflict with the people you love most? Do you blame the 1other person for it? May be it has to do with your attitude. Do you have expectations of you family members? Do you make demands on your spouse and children? This is not love. It is attachment. Love tainted with selfishness is attachment. You only love yourself. You claim to love because they happen to cater to you in some way. This causes conflict and untold suffering. In the end you support them. Attachment is the single most important cause for breakdown in relationships. So change you attitude, not lifestyle. Your life will change from drudgery to revelry. From mediocrity to Excellence. Best Wishes! Sunder Thadani

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Sunderblogger.152 I have a very simple definition of integrity: I saw a romantic greeting card which showed a couple kissing in the front seat of a car. The message said, ‘If you can kiss while driving safely, you are not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.’ Anything that is worth doing is worth doing with a whole heart, mind and body. We get into the trouble not because we do things that are wrong, but because we approach our activities with divided intentions. Our body is doing one thing while our heart is elsewhere. We go to jobs wet rather not be at, we sleep with people we don’t love, we go to parties we secretly find boring or repulsive. At the same time we love people we don’t express our love for, we deny ourselves food we would really enjoy, and we know truths we do not act on. You are doing on the outside matches who you are on the inside. I respect people who do things I don’t agree with, or wouldn’t do myself, but I respect them for being 100 percent who they are. They are in integrity. Regards, Sunder.thadani

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Sunderblogger.153 Indians, by and large, have an aversion to anything dark. Whether it`s sugar, flour or skin complexion, dark is out and white is in, the whiter the better. The exception to this color is coded scheme of things is money. Indians or, at least some Indians have a distinct preference for so-called “black” money over” white” money. Best Wishes Sunder Thadani